It's the way we worked – she lit my fire and I gave it to her and she nodded feverishly, giving me a thumbs up. Strap-ons are just tools for penetration, they are not men or penises. SPOILER WARNING: After Arya had sex in this week's episode of Game of Thrones, fans took to Twitter to insist that she may be a lesbian, rather than bisexual? Love the show and thanks to the fantastic design. She was very grateful that my gracious, understanding.